As another Christmas period draws closer, it can bring up a mix of feelings in each of us. This time of year can be both joyful and stressful. Many people experience a range of emotions and can go through highs and lows. With this in mind, Christmas looks different for everyone, and there is no single right way to experience this time. In saying this, there can often be pressure to feel a certain way, even if our own reality looks totally different.

While acknowledging that it can be normal to carry the emotional load of the past year into the Christmas period, this blog will offer gentle tips on caring for your own wellbeing, staying connected, and practising kindness to yourself and others.

Looking back on the past 12 months, it may have brought challenges and pressures that were difficult to deal with. The thoughts of this Christmas period are starting to get you thinking and overthinking about having this so-called ‘Perfect Christmas’ and the expectations around it. This can cause even more stress, as we all know how demanding December can be with work, social activities, and family expectations.

Pause for a moment and ask yourself these questions honestly and without any pressure:

  • What really matters to me this Christmas period?
  • What would make this Christmas feel more manageable?
  • What can I let go of?

These three self-reflective questions could help you focus on what’s important to you at this time. Nourishing your own wellbeing is a positive step, such as making time for rest and recovery, avoiding over-committing to too many social outings, and creating pauses during your week to gently reset.

However, when we do not feel our best, saying ‘No’ to things can be hard, and we may feel guilty. Instead of saying ‘No’, say ‘Not right now’ to give yourself the choice to do what you feel is right at that moment. These little decisions will benefit you and your mood in the long run, and also protect your energy levels.

Additionally, Christmas can be a lonely and isolating time for many. It can be a time when we experience difficult emotions, such as grief, old memories, or family stressors. Practising self-compassion and kindness towards yourself is so important. Staying connected does not have to be big or really complicated. This Christmas, it could be about creating new traditions or simplifying old ones that make you feel better within yourself.

What would I suggest?

Creating small connection practices can make a big difference in your day.

Here are a few simple ways to build these small moments of connection:

  • Joining a local community event to help build connections.
  • Doing acts of kindness and giving time to someone you care about.
  • Writing a short-handwritten note or card to someone close to you.
  • Arrange a walk-and-talk with a friend or share a cup of tea/coffee at a place that gives you comfort.
  • Check in with someone you haven’t heard from in a long time. A simple text could be the start of a re-connection.

In essence, it’s about spending time with people who make you feel good, which improves your connection with yourself and others.

During the upcoming period, acknowledging the small moments of joy is really important; I call them ‘Glimmer moments’. Over the next few weeks, notice and pay attention to moments that bring you joy and laughter, and realise that all of these add up to contribute to your overall mental wellbeing.

Finally, to build on minding your own wellbeing, create a simple “Christmas Wellbeing Plan” with three things that can protect your wellbeing. To help make this list, you could ask yourself this question:

‘What are three things I will commit to in December that can protect my wellbeing?’

It’s often the small things that can make a big difference.

As a closing message, practice kindness towards yourself and others in your life, and know that support is available from trusted sources, community groups or professional support if you are struggling. Holding onto hope that things will get better and taking small steps can make this season more manageable and meaningful.

Final Reminder: It’s okay to ask for help.

If you are finding this Christmas period difficult or feeling overwhelmed, it’s important to remember that you don’t have to cope alone. Reaching out for support can feel hard, but it can also be a positive and meaningful step. Below are some trusted services that offer free, confidential support if you need someone to talk to or guidance during this time.

  • Samaritans – Available 24/7 for anyone who needs to talk.
    Call 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.ie. Free, confidential support, day or night.
  • 50808 Text About It Support Line – A free, confidential text service for anyone feeling overwhelmed or in distress. Text HELLO to 50808 anytime to chat with a trained volunteer.