To mark International Men’s Day, we spoke to two men from Mental Health Ireland who shared their reflections on men’s wellbeing, connection, and the importance of speaking openly about how we feel. International Men’s Day, celebrated every year on November 19th, offers an important chance to pause and recognise the experiences of men in our families, workplaces, and communities. It’s also a moment to highlight the pressures many men carry quietly, the unspoken stress that often goes unnoticed, and the strength it takes to reach out for support.
In this blog, Cillian Keane and Karl Spain offer their personal insights—reminding us that checking in with ourselves, embracing vulnerability, and staying connected can make a meaningful difference. Their reflections encourage all of us to look inward, to show compassion towards ourselves and others, and to keep showing up, one small step at a time. You can also check out a recorded webinar to mark International Men’s Day with Cillian and Karl here.
International Men’s Day- Why Does it Matter?
By Cillian Keane
Every year on November 19th is International Men’s Day, a moment to pause, appreciate and reflect on men’s health and wellbeing.
While we recognise the role men play in families, workplaces and communities, today is about highlighting the positive role models in our lives and raising awareness of men’s health and wellbeing.
At times, many men carry pressures and unspoken stress with them every day that often go unnoticed. Sometimes the weight of being seen as ‘Strong‘ can be too heavy to carry.
Not wanting to burden others or share what is really on their mind can have a negative impact on themselves and on the people in their lives.
There can be a gap between how men really feel and what they say out loud. With each International Men’s Day, we will continue to spread the message that sharing that you are struggling is a sign of strength, not a weakness!
Also, connection to others is essential for men’s wellbeing, but how often do we connect with ourselves? To really look inward at our own thoughts and emotions and see where we are at.
Asking yourself, ‘How am I feeling today?’
If you’re not feeling your best, that is ok, as noticing it is the first step in looking after yourself.
For the action piece, follow up and ask yourself, ‘What can I do in this moment to make my day a little bit better?’
It’s the small moments of pause that can help us see things more clearly and move us forward in a positive direction.
So take these moments in your day to pause, reflect, and be self-aware of how you are actually feeling, which can make a meaningful difference to your overall mental health and wellbeing.
Keep Showing Up – International Men’s Day Reflection
By Karl Spain
Men’s mental health often goes unnoticed, and many of us try to handle challenges in silence. Progress doesn’t mean perfection, it’s about showing up, even when the road feels long. Every effort counts, and every small step moves you closer to your goals. Hold on to hope because hope is growth. It’s the belief that you will get there, even if the journey feels uncertain.
Balance is key. Try to avoid extremes or overindulgence in any one thing and keep your mind open to fresh perspectives. Explore new skills, embrace different viewpoints, and remember that growth comes from stepping outside your comfort zone. Sometimes, two people can look at the same number and see something different, one sees a 6, the other a 9.
Listening to others’ perspectives helps us understand the bigger picture. Care for yourself as much as you care for others – you matter. Surround yourself with people who energise you, create rituals that nurture your mind and spirit, and build safe spaces where you and your loved ones feel secure. These habits create stability and strength.
Show respect for women and people of all gender – not just in words, but in actions. Stand up for equality, challenge harmful stereotypes, and amplify voices that are often unheard. True strength is not dominance; it’s empathy, fairness, and partnership. When we listen, learn, and advocate for one another, we create communities where everyone thrives.
Finally, give back and connect. Helping others strengthens your community and your sense of belonging. Speak kindly to yourself and extend that kindness to others – empathy is strength. If you feel overwhelmed, reach out. There are good people out there and resources to support you. You are not alone. Keep learning, keep growing, and keep showing up. Every small step matters, and together, we build hope.
This International Men’s Day, remember: You don’t have to face challenges alone. Silent struggles can become shared strength when we reach out and connect.
